Fascinating addition to the sociosexual hierarchy. The ‘me’, in my youth, might have felt more seen by the concept of a Sigma male! Nowadays I don’t feel this label is sufficiently atomised to my circumstances.
I agree with Jordan Peterson - on this matter. In my experience it is, generally speaking, only fear of getting knocked out that ultimately stops men being arrogant dicks! This is only further exacerbated by the fact that fear is often misconstrued as respect, and so the cycle continues from generation to generation. So if being an arrogant dick is one’s default setting then the only cycle breaker, and manifesto for future generations of men and women, that comes to mind is this:
‘We can’t punish a child into managing tough feelings, making good decisions, caring about others, learning how to be in healthy relationships. Actually, punishment gets in the way of these critical developments - after all, punishments make kids feel bad inside, which leads to self-blame, dysregulation, and a belief that loving relationships involve power dynamics, fear, aloneness, and control. Not effective in the short-term or long-term.’ ~ Dr. Becky Kennedy.
What does this mean to me? Dr. Becky’s parenting methodology is challenging the survival-of-the-fittest evolutionary paradigm. Might we finally be able to nurture generations of kids into more mindful, compassionate humans? If so, would this lead to a more morally just, egalitarian society?
Fascinating addition to the sociosexual hierarchy. The ‘me’, in my youth, might have felt more seen by the concept of a Sigma male! Nowadays I don’t feel this label is sufficiently atomised to my circumstances.
I agree with Jordan Peterson - on this matter. In my experience it is, generally speaking, only fear of getting knocked out that ultimately stops men being arrogant dicks! This is only further exacerbated by the fact that fear is often misconstrued as respect, and so the cycle continues from generation to generation. So if being an arrogant dick is one’s default setting then the only cycle breaker, and manifesto for future generations of men and women, that comes to mind is this:
‘We can’t punish a child into managing tough feelings, making good decisions, caring about others, learning how to be in healthy relationships. Actually, punishment gets in the way of these critical developments - after all, punishments make kids feel bad inside, which leads to self-blame, dysregulation, and a belief that loving relationships involve power dynamics, fear, aloneness, and control. Not effective in the short-term or long-term.’ ~ Dr. Becky Kennedy.
What does this mean to me? Dr. Becky’s parenting methodology is challenging the survival-of-the-fittest evolutionary paradigm. Might we finally be able to nurture generations of kids into more mindful, compassionate humans? If so, would this lead to a more morally just, egalitarian society?